Coming out to my daughter

I have wanted to tell my kids for some time now, but my wife hasn’t been in favour of it. However a few things have recently happened to make it a good idea.

First, we attended a Halloween party on Halloween weekend with my wife dressed as an Olympic goddess and me as Cleopatra. Of course the natural question when one announces attendance at a Halloween party is what are you wearing? I was honest about that, in part as a way to open this up. Then she wanted to she pictures of Cleopatra, which I sent to her, and she said I looked great!

Then last weekend we were at the Xpressions Christmas Gala, at which I spent the whole weekend en femme. What a great experience that was! Oh My!

I’ll do another post about that experience, this one is about coming out to my daughter.

We had wondered how much she guessed, as she asked my wife a couple of days earlier, “What’s Dad wearing?”. She simply answered "I don’t know" as she didn’t really want to answer it.

After discussion with my wife, I’d said I think it would be better to just come out and tell her.

Basically I just told her on the phone about my desire to dress up in women’s clothes, and that I now go out en femme, and that we now have a whole social group of trans and crossdressing friends. She asked about pictures, so I sent her few, she likes me with the newer blonde wig rather than the older brown one.

She was totally cool with it, and said she is so happy for me that I’m living my true self. Tonight she told me a couple of other things related to this. The most surprising is that she told some friends and colleagues about me, and my femme name, Amy.

My daughter and I are quite similar in many ways, and that also holds true about taste in clothes. We have the exact same black winter boots from the same retailer, and another pair which differs only in colour, then we also both have a beautiful grey and black sequin dress which is nearly the same. So she related that to her friends, and they were quite cool with it all too, and got a big laugh out of the similarly between us.

Also she is still processing this info as the person she thought she has known very well her whole life has a secret identity, but she said is still cool with it.

The deal I made with her, was that she can talk about this  with some of her friends which have no contact with our family, as she is the sort of person who needs to talk things through. I would not tell her something like this and then swear her to secrecy. There are some in our family who would definitely not be cool with this, and I don’t want her to have any fallout from this, or myself for that matter, but my first concern is her.

It is so nice to be out in the open with her about this. My son, well that is still in the future. I think he will be good with it, but it is the guy to guy thing which bothers me.

However, one is good and that is great so far.

Thank to all of you girls.